「どうゆう状態で在りたいか」＝ How do you want to live? / Is this how you want to live? / Is the state in which you want to live? / What do you want from your life?
落ち込んでいる人にアドバイスをしたいなら、こういう表現を使えば良いと思います：
The important thing is to decide what you want from your life.
（大事なのは、どうゆう状態で在るかだよ）
It is important to think about what you want to change in your life.
（自分の人生に何を変えたいのか？それを考える事が大事だよ。）
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